What is state of your mental Health? A self-check toolkit.

 While we go for regular physical health check-ups, even if otherwise ok, we seldom do mental health checkup! Authors cum practitioners  like Alain De Botton, Dan Arley, Adam Grant, Jordan B Petterson and Browen Berne, do share some insights which can often be collated as barometer for self-checking the state of ones’ mental health. I wander what would a self-check mental health barometer looks like!  

Shy of asking Chatgpt or google, here is my list:

1 Are you able to consciously edit various thoughts emerging in your mind, to select the empowering ones and discard the debilitating ones?  It does not entertain thoughts that reminds us of our unworthiness or fuel the feelings of regret, remorse, resent or conceit.               

2 Are you able to retain the general trust in goodness of humanity and reconcile with selfish acts at the individual level?

3 Can you resist the temptation of comparisons to others, either to feel good or bad?

4  Recognize the unreasonableness of cheerfulness as the only desirable end-state state, and any other as sub-optimal?  “Worldy” people are likely to be less happy than they seem. 

Albrecht Durer (1493)

5 Realise that every explanation that looks plausible may not be real, and that randomness could as well be the real reason?  Not every unsuccessful man is so, because of laziness or stupidity.

6 Able to compartmentalize thoughts and emotions and maintain sense of proportionality of response to the situation.

7 Able to recognize fear as state of being and mange it through recognition and additional dose of curiosity. 

8 In quest of seeking more, not to undermine what is already there.  Recognize that Every situation has the possibility of being worst! Can you express gratitude to crashed pillow that ensures good night sleep.   

9  Once in a while you remind oneself of transience nature of being, and its insignificant presence at cosmic level.

10  Are you comfortable with laying boundaries in relationships and can utter warm sounding but definitiveno, without affecting prevailing level of affection 

11 Appreciate the role of genes, parenting, and early childhood experiences in shaping us, but not hold to these convenient factors to defend your learnt helplessness or laziness.

How much you score and what is the ranking criteria- I cant say- but may be there is some realization where to focus to strengthen our mind!

Beyond Rationality and Authority: Influencing tricks that Work

The quest for techniques that enable one to influence others to do what one wants (especially when there is no formal authority or unquestionable rationale backing the expectations) is near universal.
Several researchers from behavioral sciences, experienced management professionals and successful executives have discovered or realized few tricks that seem to work. These tricks have proven effective in different contexts: increasing sales, garnering support for social cause, or driving transformation agenda within an enterprise. 

Let us consider the most common five tricks:

1. Anything Limited has unlimited appeal : Limited editions/designs, trial period, discount window etc. accelerate decision making and often to desired outcome. The potential loss of perceived missed opportunity seems to enhance appeal. Fear of Loss provokes action more often then scope of potential gain. Deadline tactics restricts procrastination game– another natural tendency with most of us. Make it scarce, it will be perceived valuable.
2. Associate inferior comparative to get chosen : The easiest way to look slim, without dieting, is to select a fatter friend. It is all about being relatively better. On a school 25 th year reunion, if you choose the silent character near the bar than the one in the centre of the room tasting wine to all, that will make you feel good about your accomplishments and go home feeling good about life spent so far. So to sell something that has no off-take, it may be worthwhile to consider introducing an inferior option than a better one - experiments seems to suggest so!
3. Unleash the irresistible allurement of FREE : Zero cost upsets all calculations and comparisons and fail all economic rationale decision making. We seem comfortable to pick-up trash if it is for free (recall pencils and pads you brought along from last conference you attended) but will do sufficient due diligence if it costs even one cent or may choose a costlier option, even if we have to pay extra. We can accept any quality of tea as long as it is free, but will walk to nearest Coffee Shop if canteen charges even Rs 2 for it. There is no downside associated with something that is for free and so there are not much performance expectations either. But loosening purse strings comes with lot more due diligence, no matter how meager is the amount.
4. Leverage power of passion, commitment and guilt if you can not pay enough: We live in two worlds simultaneously- one run by market rules and another driven by social norms. Position the request in right world to get compliance. When attending party thrown by too affluent, gifting bouquet is safe, for flowers are priceless and best wishes are too valuable! Provoke emotions of being responsible citizens that care for the city, to get lakes cleaned up through voluntary kar seva, if you can not afford to pay everyone sufficient for their labor. Ask doctors for free service to the poor but not discount on their consultation charges - off-course they will like to pay back to society that has given them so much.
5. It is all about “give to get” : Treat reciprocation as given, for the receiving parties can not sit idle till it has returned the favour you have done to them- even in cases where the favour was thrusted on them in unsolicited manner. We have all seen sudden endorsement on social website for us from someone we barely know, and beware this comes with hidden expectation for reciprocation. Worst is the exchange of concessions; if you seek concession for being late to the meeting, rest assure other party would expect you to gloss over their minor mistakes related to quality aberrations.

Now that these tricks have been pointed out, I am sure on reflection, you may be able to appreciate their wide spread application in our daily personnel and professional lives. You may also be using some of them, may be intuitively then in a designed fashion!

Share interesting instances, where you have seen these tricks being applied, and what are the effective counter-strategies. I will also be happy to hear from you any other tricks that you realize work well in enhancing compliance power,

Lets Reflect!

( Readers serious about enhancing their influencing power are suggested to read: Influence- The Psychology of Persuasion by Dr Robert B Cialdini )